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The number of users online dating sites like Match.com, OKCupid, JDate and eHarmony now attract suggests that any stigma people once felt around looking for love online has lifted. But would you use a matchmaking site to find female friends ? The New York Times reported that more women are doing just that.
The Times reported that the majority of the (thousands) of women using these type of friendship-seeking sites are going through a period of transition in their lives -- such as a move or a divorce -- that might make creating new friendships more difficult. “[With these sites] you can skip the insecurity of, ‘Oh, they’re so busy, they don’t need friends,’” Shasta Nelson, founder of GirlFriendCircles told the New York Times .
Because, let’s face it, sometimes making new female friends is hard, sometimes harder than dating. While it’s generally accepted that you may need to put some in some extra effort while pursuing a romantic partner, actively looking for friends may be viewed as out of the ordinary or desperate. “The awkwardness seems even more intense than dating sites because it doesn't align with the old, time-worn trope of the Boyfriendless Lady Who Has Lots Of Female Friends But Just Wants Love,” wrote Jezebel’s Ann Breslaw.